“Recent headlines in the newspaper: A billionaire actor met with a deadly accident while shooting a thriller scene. And lost his limbs” Horrifying! Indeed. But this is the reality of life. In one blow, the structure of a planned living can get disturbed.
For example, try to analyse the life of a corporate guy, his lifestyle and thought process when he enters into this field. He is dynamic and has determined goals with a passionate spirit to achieve them. The person taxes his brain day and night, reads and researches, tries to gather colleague support and starts channelising his efforts towards them. The things start falling into place. Hence his surroundings and people become very favourable and start encouraging him in his endeavours. They shower their affection and blessings but at times, a big twist takes place in the story. The attitude of the people change and that suprises him. His mind becomes consumed with the question of who and why?
But was the sudden change in his hands. Can he change the behaviour of the people again instantly?
In cricket, there is a term used ‘sledging’. Where the opponent abuses the batsman to the extent that he loses his focus and makes the wrong move.
You know why Sachin Tendulkar is such a renowned batsman! One such reason is that he is unaffected by this practice. He remains cool during these acts by his opponents. If we keep this understanding that there are situations which don’t need our reaction but only our response which is to remain cool and not let those thoughts consume our mind, then things will be handled in a better way. As per a research, it was found that 70% of the human brain is consumed with the thoughts which are not under his control.
So why are we wasting our time in thinking or reacting on it? Sometimes we just need to flow with the rhythm and let things happen on their own naturally. If the positive situations came on their own naturally, then of course the odd situations will pass without questioning them. A flower blossoms in some seasons and gives its fragrance and shelter to insects but in other seasons it dries. So that’s a natural process. We can give our best and leave the results to ripe naturally. Be realistic in our expectations!
It’s easy to say but difficult to do. Here comes the need to question ‘HOW’ instead of ‘WHY’. When we start channelising our energy on how to deal with the odd situations then the sense of misery and crimbing ends. There is a saying in Hindi, “Jo Hona Tha Voh Ho Gaya Ab Kya Karna Hai Voh Matlab Ki Baat Hai”. In order to remain cool and persevere in our efforts, we need to practice meditation. One such effective meditation is Nitaai Breathing! When we bring the focus to our breath then we feel a cooling sensation and lightness in the mind. The thoughts get settled and the perception broadens. Instead of eliminating frustration by shouting, we throw it away by reverberating Nitaai Sound with the mouth. This sound pacifies and reassures our mind and gives us strength to keep going.
Remember one thing, that if these temptations had not come our way, then we would have not become that strong as we are today. If those challenges and struggles had not defeated us once, then we would have never taken the step to beat them the next time. We will fail! Once, Twice! But the strength and determination, we get with each failure, will remain intact within us untill we succeed. Let our work and actions speak, more than our words!